English is the major language used all over the world. It is the common instrument in order to communicate with each other. Even if we have different dialects in our locality, we meet a specific point of using English as a medium in communicating. This medium originates from a sender. He sends his message thru a channel or medium in the form of television advisories, radio broadcasting and letters which is received by the receiver. The receiver will then interpret the message, sends a feedback thus repeating the cycle.
Before we were born, our mother would use to read stories from books, listen to classic music, or even sing to us nursery rhymes. She would often talk to us when we are still in her womb. The stories and lyrics most often contain English words to enhance our memory. When we were born we learned how to tell, “mama” or “daddy”. We can also understand the word “no. As we grow up, our vocabulary increases and we can combine one word to another in order to form a sentence.
Major subjects such as math, science, language are taught in school using English in the discussion. Even civics and culture, formerly called Sibika at Kultura was revised from Filipino to English, further enhancing our vocabulary and readiness in reading and writing. Instructions in quizzes and exams are given in English. In passing an application letter and Curriculum Vitae, we write it in English unless you’re a Major in Filipino. During job interviews we answer their questions in fluent English, in order to land a job. This is also a requirement in call center companies.
Directions are also written in English in order to locate streets, roads, and building to avoid confusion and to give better access of the area you want to go. Advertisements in television, magazines and bill boards use metaphors’ to attract customers. Chinese and Japanese movies are translated to English or given the corresponding subtitles’. Reporters both on screen and on paper commonly use English as their medium, this is false however when it comes to local stations, where the masses are given recognition and the fact that not everyone can comprehend straight English. Food labels are also in English form from cooking instructions to other sorts of paraphernalia they imbed to inform and to attract the clientele. English is therefore a treasure to be enhanced, yet not a complete substitute for our local dialects.
A remarkable and famous saying from Dr. Jose Rizal. It is stated in his poem, “To the Filipino Youth”. How could be the youth be a hope, if he doesn’t have education? Youth are really in trouble nowadays. Many hindrances are around them. People see them as a hope, but they couldn’t provide good education, morals, virtues and perfect model for them.
Education plays a very important role for us. We can earn a lot of virtues around it. It can enhance our personality, character, self- confidence and especially our future. The only treasure that no one would bother to steal and more precious diamonds, gems, and jewels.
Whenever I see children in the street, selling sampaguita, rags, and cigarette. My heart breaks into pieces. These children should be holding a pencil and paper not that stuff. They should be at school, enhancing their knowledge and talents. My imagination of having successful country fades away.
Corruption is typical in the Philippines. It’s a problem since then. Higher officials corrupt the taxes we pay. They don’t give what are really intended for the people. They just think of themselves, not bothering to see the people they’re serving. Illegal drugs were not stopped because these corrupt officials protect it. (Nice beings, a corrupt and a protector of illegal drugs, in one? Whew,. Where can we find that, only in the Philippines? Hahaha!) They use their power and position. These drugs corrupt the mind of the youth, they’re the usual victim. And these youth were also rejected by their family and the society.
Poverty is the biggest hindrance for the youth to get a good education.
How could be a youth be the hope of Fatherland? With these increasing hindrance for him to achieve his goals. Rizal may be right and wrong at the same time with this saying. Right, if the youth can manage and enhance his talents, he can use it to improve his lifestyle and living. Wrong, for all the challenges we encounter now, that ourselves make.
As time come, we can find someone who can solve our problems and who is responsible enough to manage the country. Twenty years from now, I may be that perfect person who can fight all the hindrances we’re encountering and improve the state of our country. As of now let me just get my books, read and study. Study harder if possible and let myself be aware of the happenings in the country. Next year, ELECTION 2010 lets vote truthfully and never let them buy your vote. Choose your official with all your heart and mind.
Ang edukasyon ay isang instrumento na nasilbing tangalaw sa daigdig na ito. Siya ang ating pangatlong magulang na gumabay sa atin. Siya rin ang nagsisilbing gabay upang makilala natin ang tama at mali at kung ano ang nararapat nating gawin. Edukasyon din ang daan tungo sa pagabot ng ating mga pangarap.
Sa aking determinasyong mailahad ang aking saloobin, nauwi ako sa pagkakaluklok sa isang upuan, kaharap ang computer, biuksan ang internet explorer habang dinig ko ang kaingayan ng mga kabataang nagsusumikap na naglalaro ng mga computer games. Sa aking pananaliksik ay natagpuan ko ang depinisyong umagaw sa aking atensyon. Isang depinisyong natagpuan ko sa isang “Education in its broadest sense is any act or experience that has a formative effect on the mind, character, or physical ability of an individual (e.g., the consciousness of an infant is educated by its environment through its interaction with its environment); and in its technical sense education is the process by which society deliberately transmits its accumulated knowledge, values, and skills from one generation to another through institutions.[1]Teachers in such institutions direct the education of students and might draw on many subjects, including reading, writing, mathematics, science and history. This technical process is sometimes called schooling when referring to the compulsory education of youth.[2] Teachers in specialized professions such as astrophysics, law, or zoology may teach only a certain subject, usually as professors at institutions of higher learning. There is also instruction in fields for those who want specific vocational skills, such as those required to be a pilot. In addition there is an array of education possible at the informal level, e.g., at museums and libraries, with the Internet, and in life experience”.
Edukasyon, isang simpleng salita ngunit kung tutuklasin natin ang malalim na sulok ng salitang ito ay makapagbibigay ng libu-libong depinisyon. Isa na dito ay ang eduksayon bilang isang kayamanan, isang kayamanan dahil ito ang pinamulat sa ng ating mga nkakatanda. Malimit mbanggit ang mga ito kung tayo’y hindi nagpupursigi o di kaya’y kung nkikita tayong hindi natin pinagbubuti ang ating mga leksyon hindi ba? Sasamahan pa ng mga wikang ….”kami ng inay mo ay hindi nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral kaya namin natupad ang mga pangarap namin, sana anak ikaw ang magpuno sa aming kakulangan, ikaw na sana ang magpatuloy ng aming karera…oh diba?...madrama nga ngunit may katotohanan dahil ito ay isang karunungan o wisdom. Makasarili man kung minsan ang ating mga magulang sa kung anong kukunin nating kurso ay hindi rin natin sila masisi lalo na’t kung ikinatwiran pa nila ang nasabing mga “walang katapusang linya” na nailahad sa unang mga unang mga pangungusap.
Ibat-ibang panahon man ang ating lakbayin, ma pa kay Gat Jose Rizal man o kahit sino pa man, kasama ang importansya ng edukasyon. Ang edukasyon daw ay isang sandata na lulupig sa karalitaan at kamangmangang ipinamumulat sa atin ng malawak na daigdig na ito. Masasabi natin na ang pangunahing tauhan sa edukasyon ay ang kabataan o ang mga susunod na henerayon.”ika nga ni Dr. Rizal sa kanyang akda, ang kabataan ang pag-asa ng bayan”. Pag-asa ng bayan?...san na nga ba ang mga kabataan ngayon?...ayun po sila nagDOdoTA..ayun po sila kasama ang mga “irog” nila at ayun po sila kasama sina Yosi at Brandy. Masasabi ba nating sila ang mga pag-asa ng bayan gayong taliwas sila sa mga nakita ni Rizal sa kanyang pagmumuni-muni? Tayo ang humusga…isa pa ay hindi naman lahat ng kabataan ganito, may mga sumusunod pa rin naman sa yapak ng ating mga bayani, kagaya ni Efren “Kuya Ef!” Penaflorida Jr. ng Dynamic Teen Comapany na kilala sa kanilang Edukasyon sa Kariton, masasabi nating isa siyang tanglaw sa gitna ng kadiliman. Si Kuya Ef ay isang taong may determinasyon upang baguhin ang kapalaran ng mga batang hindi makasabay sa agos ng kasaysayan. Sa simpleng kariton, sa bawat yapak ng mga paa at sa pawis na pinuhunan, si Kuya Ef ay gumagawa ng pagbabago. Maituturing na nga ba siyang isang sagot sa lumalalang karamdaman ng lipunang ating ginagalawan?
Marami nga bang pagkukulang ang ating gobyerno sa aspeto ngdekalidad na eduksyon? Isang katanungang nais kong maikintal sa inyong mga isipan. Sa mga nagdaang mga taon,ang Pilipinas daw ay pangatlo….PANGATLO SA KULELAT. Kung babalikan natin ang katanungan tungkol sa pagkukulang ng ating gobyerno, marahil sa pagkakataong ito ay naisip nyo na ang kasagutan.
Sa nadaluhan kong NLTSGO o National Leadership Training for Supreme Student Government Officers ay doon ko naingkwentro ang katanungang nabanggit sa ikalimang talata. sa mga oras ding iyon ay nakinig ako ng mabuti sa debate ng dalawang komponan. Ang isang koponan ang nagsasabing OO, may pagkukulang ang gobyerno, at ang kabilang koponan ay nagsasabing WALA o hindi nagkulang ang gobyerbno. sa aking paguulinig ay napukawa ang aking atensyon ng isang katwiran na panig sa sagot na WALANG PAGKUKULANG ang gobyerno sa pagbibigay ng dekalidad na edukasyon. Ang sabi nya….tayo ang may pagkukulang, binibigay ng gobyerno ng kasagutan an gating mga karaingan…nagbibigay sila ng mga aklat, mga aparato at nagpapatayo ng mga paaralan….ngunit ano ang ginagawa natin?...nagbubulakbol, di binabasa ang libro, at kung anu-ano pang hindi related sa ating pag-aaral…sa makatuwid: TAYO ANG MAY PROBLEMA HINDI ANG GOBYERNO. Iyan ang hindi tugma ngunit nakuha ko kaagad ang ibig sabihin ng nabanggit ng taong iyon. Sa puntong ito, ano sa palagay nyo ang pinakamagandang kasagutan sa katanungang..Marami ng bang pagkukulangang ating gobyerno sa aspeto ng dekalidad na edukasyon? kayo na po ang humusga.
Looking back to the events that time permitted me to retain. I reflect on certain events, saddened by my accomplishments. I was once an excelling student, competing with foreigners; unfortunately my mind lost the battle. Transferring from one school to another, moving from place to place, the stigma that though I meet a lot of people, I found no purpose in making friends, and gradually became untrusting that compelled me to withdraw to a corner. There I sat for a long time, watching people come and go, getting to understand their personality through their movements. Perhaps, life is not as sad as it looks, just go beyond the borders.
To face the future, I first want to tell my story, the legacy that defines me. Don’t laugh, it’s embarrassing as it is. Returning back, I entered High School, and started making friends, from a small backstabbing group, I got tired and moved to wider society, where I found refuge, bitter happiness and the unforgettable stupidity that defines a teen. I was happy, but the pressure that prom brought tested the groups stability, friends fighting over a girl that will soon dump them, scars were made that would remind all of us the pain love brings. Months pass, a year has ended and the fissures the turmoil brought never abated.
After a while, I left the group yet having occasional appearances; to pursue someone; I tried to show my affection, I felt nothing in return, for some reason I held on, and again time continues to pass by. During such times I neglected the feelings of another girl, not knowing her face but with mere assumptions, with the flashing of lightning I saw her, far beautiful than then the first. I broke her heart, if that wasn’t enough I wanted to crawl to her life, and see if she still had feelings for me, I guess not, there was a guy by her back. I felt stupid, damn.
So I returned to the comfort of my friends, more than a year has passed, and thank you for welcoming me back. They have grown, I won’t elaborate any further, this is my story after all. We developed new quotations such as “tara swimming”, “huwag na tayo pumasok”, and other private stuff, hey, I have the right against self incrimination. As comedy as it is but the sight of sober hearts is a well-spring of stronger bonds, remorse, expressions, curses and other everyday events we just want to say, but of course when all is well there is the timeless acts of teasing, about the day before.
Within this circle I found what is to be my true friends, and blackmailing snitches. I continue to grow but my body weakens, and news come making me conclude of my untimely death, than what I originally predicted. I won’t sulk over it, I still have many years to come, the future is for me to make after all. My chosen career seems to be a mismatch to my latent talents, and for numerous accounts have I been questioned over it. My heart and body won’t seem to let go, well that’s reality for you.
To be remembered is what I dream of, though sorry if after a couple of years and we meet and I won’t recognize you. Sorry, but let this be my legacy, the ideals I have incorporated within my words, the experiences I’ve felt to let others know the feeling and the value of being remembered.
As I near to end my essay, I’ll continue living for this is not my last will, but merely the prologue to what may be a better, fuller story. This might not even be true, and any minute I’ll wake up, any second now. Or the events may have never happened, but merely distortions created within the core of my intellect to escape the torments of my shattering identity.
So what if I’m psychotic, dying yet young, aren’t we all? These last paragraphs may not add up, but I’m putting into writing everything that comes to mind, never mind my grammar, I just want everything out. Hey, besides its a free country , for me as long as I’m not hurting anyone, than the deed is fine, for as long as everyone is happy. That’s all for now, I’ll try making a sequel if ever I get the chance, I still haven’t reached the legacy that I want to leave behind. Let’s save it for later, and slowly build up another story that will be better than this.
When was the last time you hear the ever-famous line: “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are”? Normal statement different reactions arise. Can you really tell, define and even predict your being if only for your friends? We can.
Friends are not made they’re born as they say. As a rising teenager, I can clearly verify my friends.The person who taught me the essence of being a friend would keep on as my best friend ceaselessly. She taught me the central groundwork of friendship –TRUST. Anyone who can trust and knows how to trust could be your friend undying. Can a friendship last without trust? A friend who’ll mind you, be familiar on how to cry and laugh, placate you in times of madness, lends you money when you’re in trouble, talks to you every second she gets, and escort you wherever you want to go without even you complaining, have you ever tried owning a friend so dear? I’ll bet that from all the ups and downs you’ve been into, trust would always exist.
Possessing a friend could be of such great value. It doesn’t matter how many friends you have as long as you have one whom who understands every move you make, life is sweet. But if you can have as many as you can as long as you know they are trusted, grab them and never let go for life is way sweeter and is worth the living.
Friends have one common goal and that is to be genuine. They could be of different kinds and of different personalities but they will be respected for where they belong. Have you tried befriending a person who has a low profile, at times you even think she doesn’t exist for she’s quiet, but, she do have a razor-sharp mind and can also put make-up on her face? Or have you gone for someone who doesn’t care too much of herself as long as she can serve her friends she’d still be breathing? How about a person who loves music and cool stuffs, a frank person, childish but wishes to have a boyfriend and you are left amazed that stuffs like that could hit her? Or even a friend so rich that could treat you half the food stuffs you could find in the nearest mall to your school, treating you takoyaki, Japanese cake, Boba Boy, potato marble, siomai with gulaman, etc.? How about someone who have a strong personality, someone wild but at the end of the day, cries for all those body pains she feels everytime she goes home from training? Have tried to go for someone who’s practical but do have some unexplained and hasty generalization about some actual situations in life but still considers the feelings of his’ friends? How about for someone who thinks the most pervert things you could imagine but still knows how to think and act wisely and could be the person you can laugh with even though you have the lamest joke ever existed? How about befriending the smartest boy in your class, you’d think he’d always be thinking about grades but trust me he also thought of some leisure in life and could be the most humble person you’ve ever known? Go for someone who has beauty and brains, back and front, left and right. How about a person who’s too quiet even when around friends but would be the first person to hear your issues? How about the person you accused of something rude that eventually could be the person who could give you light, heaven and reality?
A friend would always be a friend even you not noticing it.
A friend would be a friend if you happen to experience different aches, call it stomachache, headache, toothache, backache, or even heartache. Treasure your friends. Cherish the moments. Revive every minute you spent with them. Acknowledge their presence. You’ll never know when they’ll leave. Hug them. Kiss them. Miss them. Love them.
Creating a real and true friendship would be difficult. Let time fix things up. Let Heaven answer your questions. Let everything be real. No pretensions. No backstabbing. No lies.
Have a heart that feels. Have a mind that speaks. Have a friend that’s real.
Many people are prone to prejudging others which is a fact that hurts me and the majority. I, myself, am not excused to being like one at times, but at a part I know that I’m wrong and I try to correct it and look for the answers. This is like setting the mind on the “first impression lasts” idea that is not reliable at all times. There are things that needed to be given time to know before setting any conclusion. It is like a simple problem that scientific method is to be applied. You first identify the problem and observe, and there you get the hypothesis which in life could be your first impressions. Next step is to test your hypothesis whether it’s reliable or not. Testing or experimentation takes a lot of time and effort to find precise answers. A person conducting an experiment should not be in any way biased. After which, one has to analyze the gathered data and after that, one can set a better conclusion that can be use. Hypotheses do not always end up as one of the conclusions, so therefore first impressions do not always define what the character of a person is. It is just a matter of learning how to give chance to people, to let them prove themselves and prove there worth in life too. Life is not always about “what you see is what you get” idea. There are so much more to learn about life. Assuming answers most often lead to a bigger problem. Come to think of it, if you predict things that you aren’t sure about, you can step on someone unconsciously. People get hurt; things soon get out of control. It will be harder to fix things that were led by such act. Things without reliable basis are costly. For example, a friendship stained by doubts, doubts about whether one is loyal or not. A relationship that weakens because of lack of trust. People tend to think that they all ready know everything; that they don’t have to be told and therefore conclude right away which is something very illogical and dangerous. Friendships might end, relationships might be ruined, and trust could be lost.
What’s best is not to set things immediately instead learn to understand things step by step, detail by detail before making a decision. Once something like friendship is lost, it is very difficult to bring back how it used to be. Things like this may seem unimportant but if you take a broader perspective you will realize that in every step we make, be mindful of what lies ahead. Keep in mind that God gave humans the ability to make judgments that had gone through series of studies. It’s heartbreaking that things end with just a mere act of disregarding the truth, a mere act of immaturity. It is an evident deed of cowardice; a person of such is someone afraid to know that he commits mistake for he knows that he is always right. Those kinds of people are not capable of growing in any aspect of life. It is important to listen to explanations for it can bring people peace of mind and clarification instead of setting answers and assuming them right. Once you fail, you can’t accept it and you will not stop unless it satisfies your urge; urge for showing the masses that you’re ideas are never wrong. This thing is not to be imitated nor tolerated by anyone. This hunger is like a disease that gets worst as one denies the truth that no one is perfect and that humans are inevitable to commit mistakes. It is like being stuck in a fantasy world where you think you control things, that what you do is all right and best for everyone which in reality is was far from how you thought it was. When you face the future with such problem, it feels difficult looking back in the past and reminisced the memories that are happy, memories that in a blink of an eye were all gone because of a simple act, prejudging. Be careful for this kind of things cost a priceless amount like friends loyalty, lover’s love, family’s trust and a lot more. Remember that in making decisions, never fail to take time to know all sides, think about it and make good decisions. It will be a better place if it will be at peace and harmony, not of feuds and misunderstandings. Treasure everyone that comes into your life for they play important roles you just don’t know. Better yet, don’t put brands on people you meet instead establish strong intimate relationships that you can cherish for a lifetime. Learn to accept thing and do not to make prior judgments that you soon will regret. It will give one a peaceful and comfortable life without worries of stepping or hurting others, conscience is at peace and things are stable. Be open to things that require deep understanding. Be responsible in everything you do. And never forget to ask God for guidance and wisdom for you to be able to find the answers our hearts desire and find contentment.
Hindi ba’t lahat ay may kanya-kanyang kaibigan? Hindi ba’t lahat tayo ay masaya sa piling ng ating mga kaibigan? Hindi ba’t kung wala tayong mapagsambitan ng ating mga hinanakit ay sa kanila natin inilalabas? Hindi ba’t may mga panahon na sila pa ang mas gusto nating makasama kaysa sa ating mga kapamilya? May mga pagkakataon pa nga hindi ba na ayaw na natin mahiwalay sa kanila?
Ang sagot sa mga katanungang iyon ay walang iba kundi ang dalawang letrang salita na OO. Oo, dahil napakahalaga ng aruga o presensiya ng kaibigan, isa man o marami. Oo, marami silang naitutulong at oo din dahil may napakalaki silang gampanin sa ating buhay, nagiging parte sila n gating buhay ditto sa mundo. Itinutruring natin sila bilang atin na ring mga kapamilya at kapuso. Ngunit, may isa pa akong katanungan. Ito ay bakit may nasisira, nawawakas, nasasayang o naglalaho na parang bula na kaibigan o pagkakaibigan? Sa kabila ng lahat ng kasiyahan, harutan, tawanan, iyakan, kwentuhan, kainan, lamangan, kopyahan,sayawan, kantahan, galaan, dayaan, syempre di makakalimutan ang tulungan. Ang sagot pa rin sa katanungan na iyan ay dahil mayroong iba’t-ibang ugali ang tao, mayroong iba’t-ibang ugali rin ang bawat kaibigang ating nakilala. At bawat isa rin ay may kanya-kanyang interpretasyon at pagtatrato sa bawat pagkatao ng bawat isa.
Maaring sa hindi pagkakaintindihan ang simula ng isang pagkawasak o pagkawala ng tamis at sigla ng pagkakaibigan. Marahil, tayo ay agarang nanghuhusga sa pagkatao o kahit sa anumang nagawa ng ating mga kaibigan. Marahil din ay hindi na muna natin sinisiyasat ang mga pangyayari bago pa man tayo gumawa ng kung ano pa man. Tulad nga ng aking nasabi sa mga naunang talata na mayroon tayong ibat ibang interpretasyon o pagkakaintindi sa ibat ibang bagay, marahil isa rin iyon na maaring maging sanhi ng hindi pagkakaunawaan.dapat tayong mag ingat sa lahat ng ating sinasabi at kinikilos,dahil ang isang maliit na pagkakamali ay maaring magdulot ng isang malaking pagkawasak. Halimbawa na lamang ng hindi pagkakaintindihan na karaniwan nating nararanasan o naririnig sa alitan ng mga magkaibigan, ang mga katagang “nagbago ka na”, ang mga katagang iyon ay maaring may ibang ibig sabihin sa iba’t iba ring pagkakaintindi. Maaring nagbago na siya sa pakikitungo, nagbago na ang kanyang pag-uugali, o kaya naman ay nagbago na siya sa kanyang buong pagkatao. Maaring mangyari ang ibang pagkaunawa ng iyong kaibigan sa iyong gustong ipahiwatig. Nararapat na sundan ng isang paliwanag na magpapatunay sa iyong sinambit ukol sa kanya na nagbago na siya. At ikaw naman na sinasabihan na “nagbago ka na” ay buksan ang iyong tenga, puso at isipan sa kanyang pagpapaliwanag ukol sa kanyang binaggit. Hindi ka dapat magbigay ng agarang reaksyon sa kanyang sinabi hangga’t hindi pa niya ito naipapaliwanag. Pagkatapos naman niyang ilahad ang kanyang saloobin ay ipahayag mo rin ang iyong saloobin sa kanya. Sa paguusap ng maayos at pakikitungo ng maayos ay magiging maayos ang lahat. Hindi dapat natin idinadaan sa init ng ulo ang mga ganitong simpleng tampuhan o awayan. Hindi na tayo dapat nagsasambit ng kung anu-ano pa mang salita ukol sa kanya kung wala naman tayong patunay na totoo an gating sinasabi.
Maari rin sa pagkawala ng tiwala ang maging sanhi. Napakahalaga sa gitna ng mga magkaibigan o magkakaibigan ang tiwala, tiwala na kung saan ay walang kahit anong bahid ng pagdududa at pag aalinlangan ukol sa pagkatao ng ng iyong kaibigan. Isang napakalaking elemento ang tiwala sapagkat may mga panahon na hindi natin mailabas sa ating mga kapamilya ang mag nilalaman ng ating mga puso at isipan. Hindi ito maiiwasan dahil kung minsan ay may bagay bagay naman na hindi maiintindihan ng ating mga kapamilya dahil sa kadahilanan na malayo na ang agwat ng ating edad sa kanila kung kaya’t may mga pagkakataon na hindi nila tayo matutulungan sa ating mga suliranin. Kung kaya’t sa mga panahong ito ay sa ating mga kaibigan naman tayo tumatakbo at humihingi ng tulong. Sa pagkakaibigan, nararapat na mapahalagahan ang ipinamalas na tiwala. Bilang takbuhan naman ng ating mga kaibigan ay tulungan din natin sila ayon sa ating makakaya at dapat rin na itago na lamang sa ating sa ating sarili kung anu pa man ang kanyang nasambit, marahil ay maaring ito ay konpidensyal at hindi maaring malaman pa ng iba. Ang pinagmumulan ng tiwala ay ang pagkilala mo sa buong katauhan ng iyong mga kaibigan hindi natin dapat sila kilalanin sa kanilang pangalan lamang ngunit pati na rin sa kanyang pinag mulang pamilya pag uugali,mga ayaw at gusto, at mga karanasan sa buhay. Nararapat na malaman natin ang lahat ng iyon ng sa gayon mabuo natin ang tiwala para sa kanila, upang ng sa gayon ay di tayo magduda sa kanila mas masaya at masarap makasama ang mga taong kilala mo ng buong pagkakatao at walang tinatago na kahit ano. Mas mabuti ng kilala mo siya bago pa man sa gitna ng kasiyahan ninyong magkaibigan ay lumabas ang kanyang mga tunay na ugali at maaring hindi mo ito matanggap at maaring mairita ka pa sa kanya. At yun ay maari rin naming matuloy sa hindi magandang resulta.
Aking inilahad sa mga naunang talata ang hindi pagkakaintindihan. Kapag ang hindi pagkakaintindihan na iyon ay hindi naayos ito ay maaring humantong sa hindi na muling pagkakaunawaan pa, at mahantong sa paglalayo ng puso ng magkakaibigan, isa na rin sa mawawala rito ay ang kanyang tiwala. Sabi ko nga na ang tiwala ay mahalagang sangkap ng pagkakaibigan. Kapag ang tiwala ay nasira na napakahirap ng ibalik ito at buoin pang muli ang kung ano pa man ang nasira. Isa sa pagkawala ng tiwala ay kapag ang iyong kaibigan ay niloko mo ng hindi mo naman sinasadya ay kanya namang dinibdib at sineryoso. May mga uri ng tao na ang kanilang damdamin ay madaling masaktan kaya dapat lang na tayo ang nag-iingat sa lahat ng ating ginagawa. Paano naman natin malalaman kung sino ang nararapat at mga akmang taong dapat na pagkatiwalaan? Siyempre ang mga taong alam nating kilala natin at kilala tayo. Pero naranasan niyo na ba na kahit sa kabila ng pagkakakilala mo sa kanya, na alam mo, na ang lahat ng tungkol sa kanya tapos sa isang iglap ay hindi pala, may tinatago pa pala siya. Hindi natin maiiwasan ang mga ganoong pangyayari. May mga tao talagang pala tago at hindi sinasabi ang kanyang tunay na pagkatao at sa paglaon ng panahon at habang ang araw ay dumaraan at lumalalim na rin ang inyong pagkakaibigan dun maaring lumabas ang lahat ng pag-uugali ng isang tao, masama man o mabuti ay unti unti mo na iyong maoobserbahan at kahit hindi niya iyon sabihin ay kusa na lamang lumalabas sa kanyang mga kinikilos.
Dapat talaga tayong magtiwala sa ating mga kaibigan ngunit dapat ay siguraduhin natin kung nararapat nga ba siyang pagkatiwalaan o hindi. Tulad na lamang ang sinasabi ng isang mensahe sa celpon, “Fake friends smile and say ‘it’s ok’ when you’ve done stupid thing, then goes behind your back and whispers, ’but you’re stupid’. Real friends, hit you on the head and say ‘you’re stupid,’ in your face… then hugs you and whispers ‘but it’s ok’… Kung susuriin at iintindihin ang isang mensahe na iyan napakalalim ng gusto nitong iparating. Sinasabi dito na ang mga tunay na kaibigan ang siyang nagsasabi ng totoo tungkol sa atin para na rin sa ating kabutihan. Siya ang tumatama sa mga kamalian natin at hinding-hindi niya tayo pagtatawanan o kung ano pa man. Gagawin niya iyon upang siya na lamang ang makakita ng iyong pagkakamali at hindi makita pa ng kung sino man at sila pa ang tatawa at manlalait sa iyo. Ang mga kaibigan naman na “pakitang tao” lang ang mga nagsasabi ng positibo sa mga kamalian na nagagawa natin ngunit pagtalikod ay dun ka huhusgahan o pagtatawanan. Napakahirap nga naman talagang magtiwala. Kaya kung ikaw ay may kaibigan na nagtatama ng iyong mga kamalian ay magpasalamat ka sapagkat siya ang tunay mong kaibigan, huwag kang magpapaniwala sa mga taong nagsasabi ng positibo ngunit kaplastikan lang naman pala. Mas magandang kaibigan mo mismo ang makasakit ng iyong damdamin kaysa naman na ang iba pang tao na hindi mo naman kilala ang makakasakit sa’yo.
Inggit, isa rin itong maaring maging dahilan ng pagksaira ng pagkakaibigan. Paano nga ba nagsisimula ang inggit? Marahil lahat tayo ay pamilyar sa kahulugan ng salitang ito. May mga bagay na meron ang iba, na atin namang nagugustuhan. Dito na nagsisimula ang inggit. Isa ring pagkainggit ang “insecurity”, maraming tao ang hindi makuntento kuntento sa kung ano man ang binigay sa kanila ng Diyos. Bakit kaya hindi tayo makontento sa kung anong meron tayo? Bakit kaya kailangan pa nating mainggit sa kabila ng meron naman na tayong mga sariling atin? Marahil na rin siguro dahil mas gusto natin kung ano ang meron ng iba. Hindi ba itong pwedeng maiwasan? Hindi ko alam ang kasagutan sa tanong na iyan dahil ang tao hangga’t mayroong mas kaaya-aya sa kanyang paningin ay hindi ito magtitigil hangga’t hindi ito napapasa kaniya. Hindi lang sa pagitan ng magkaibigan nabubuo ang inggitan maaring sa pamilya, sa gitna ng mga magkakapatid o kaya naman sa mga magakaka mag-anak, maari rin sa loob ng opisina sa gitna ng mga magkakatrabaho. Halimbawa ng pagkawasak ng isang pagkakaibigan ay kung may inggitan sa gitna ng mga magkakatrabaho at masaklap pa niyon ay kapag may namuo ng pagkakaibigan sa magakakatrabaho at dahil lang sa inggitan sa posisiyon o kaya naman sa kung ano pa mang bagay na may relasyon sa kanilang trabaho ay sa isang iglap ay makakaroon ng siraan, awayan at pagkawala na ng pagkakaibigan? Hindi yan maiiwasan kahit wala ka namang ginagawang masama sa iba ang iyong imahe sa iba ay nagiging masama, ang mga iyon naman ay gawa lang din ng mga taong naiinis, nagagalit, “naiinsecure”, dahil sa inggit. Sa loob ng opisina kahit anong pagpapaka anghel nga ang gawin hanngang may mga taong inggitera/ro hindi yan maiiwasan. Halimbawa din ng inggitan ay sa gitna ng mga magkaklase na nagakakainggitan sa mga grado, ang pinagtataka ko lang eh bakit may mga nagakakainggitan sa grado eh ang grado naman ay sarili mo namang gawa? Bakit kailangan maiingit sa grado ng iba kung ikaw sa sarili mo ay hindi mo naman pinag-iigihan ang iyong pag-aaral. Hindi lang sa grado o sa posisyon ang inggit kahit mga simpleng bagay na bago sa paningin ay pinagmumulan din ng inggit. Para sa akin kung tayo ay makokontento sa kung anong meron tayo ay hindi ito mangyayari. At kung tayo ay magiging masaya na sa kung ano man ang binigay sa atin ng Diyos, dapat nalang natin itong pangalagaan at ipagpasalamat sa kanya dahil tayo kanyang binigyan ng mga ito. At hindi rin mahahantong sa hindi magagandang mga resulta.
Marami pang ibang bagay o pangyayari ang hindi ko nabanggit ngunit maari ring pagmulan ng pagkasira, pagkawasak o pagkawala ng nabuong pagkakaibigan. Nararapat lamang ay iwasan ang mga bagay na ito upang manatili ang kasiyahan ng pagkakaibigan.
Alam ko at alam nating lahat na sa gitna ng pagkakaibigan ay hindi nawawala ang muntik-muntikang mga pagkasira na pagkakaibigan.may mga iba na sa gitna ng munitk muntiokan na iyon ay nanatili pa din at naayos pa din nila ang kanilang pagkakaibigan kahit anu pa mang bagyo ang dumaan sa kanilang pagkakaibigan. May mga iba naman na kahit anong gawing pag-uusap at pagaayos ay hindi maayos ayos, maaring hindi talaga itinalaga ang mga taong iyon para sa iyo maaring may mga iba ka pang taong makakasalamuha na siya ang iyong magiging tunay na kaibigan. Maraming nagsasabi na ang mga iyon ay pagsubok lang ng Diyos upang masubok ang tatag ng mga magkakaibigan. Sang-ayon naman ako sa paniniwala na ito sapagkat ako’y naniniwala na alam ng Diyos kung anu-ano ang mga pangayayari dito sa ibabaw ng mundo 24 oras. Naniniwala din ako na Diyos din ang gumagawa ng paraan kung paano tayo mailalayo sa mga hindi tunay na mga kaibigan, sa mga kaibigan na iiwan lang tayo, o kaya naman mga kaibigan na kailangan lang tayo kapag may kailangan sila. Alam ng Diyos kung ano ang tama at mali para sa ating ikabubuti.
Huwag nating hayaang maglaho na parang bula ang ating mga kaibigan, kasama na rin ang lahat ng mga tamis ng pagsasamahan. Mahalin, alagaan at pahalagahan ang ating mga kaibigan dahil sa sila ang ating mga pangalawang pamilya na maaring umagapay sa atin sa panahon ng unos at kalungkutan. Umasal tayo na kaibigan nila at ating ipadama sa kanila na sila ay may kaibigan, huwag lang natin silang hayaang sila na lang ng sila ang gumagawa ng mga bagay bagay para sa atin, suklian din natin kung anu man ang kanilang mga nagawa. Huwag nating “i-take for granted”, ang kanilang kabaitan, dahil maari ring magsawa o mapagod sila sa lahat ng kanilang ginagawa para sa atin. Sila ang maari nating sandalan hanggang sa ating pagtanda, maging sa pagputi ng ating mga buhok kahit pagkulobot pa ng ating mga balat dahil sila ang mga kasabayan natin sa pagtahak sa ating buhay.
Huwag na huwag nating kalilimutan o mag-alangan sa paghingi ng tawad sa kanila sa ating mga pagkakamali. Simpleng salitang “patawad o sorry” ay hindi ikamamatay ng sinuman kung iyon ay sasabihin mo sa iyong kaibigan na iyong nasaktan.Huwag na kayong magpataasan pa ng mga ihi (pride), kung sino ang mauunang hihingi ng tawad. Kung tayo naman ang hinihingian ng tawad huwag ng magalinlangan pa sa pagtatawad kung ang kanyang sinasabi naman ay katotohanan at ang kanyang paghingi naman ng tawad ay galing sa puso. Huwag na nating pairalin ang mga salitang “siya naman ang nauna eh”, “siya naman ang may mali eh”, “kasalanan niya yun!”. Kahit sinuman ang nauna hayaan mo na lang iyon at siya ay iyo ng patawarin at dadating ang panahon na maiisip din niya kung ano man ang kanyang nagawa at kung ano din ang iyong ginawa sa kanya. Maari yung magsilbing aral sa kanya at magpapahiwatig din iyon kung gaano siya kaimportante sa iyo at kahit ikaw na ang may mali andiyan pa din siya at handing ipaglaban at itayo ang kung ano pa man ang inyong nabuong samahan.
Mahirap mabuwag ang pagkakaibigan lalo na kung ang mga kaibigan mo ay kasama mo halos kalahati ng iyong buhay. Yun bang mula kayo ay nasa “preparatory school”, o kaya naman nasa elementarya, hiskul o kolehiyo, ay kayo na talaga ang magkadamay sa buhay. Hindi naman nasusukat ang pagkakaibigan sa haba ng taon ng inyong pinagsamahan kundi sa halaga ng mga pinagsamahan niyo at sa lahat ng mga pagpaphalaga ninyo sa bawat isa. Hindi ganoon kadali alisin ang bahid ng kalungkutan sa mga oras na naalala mo ang mga panahon ng kasiyahan na kapiling mo sila. Mahirap burahin sa ating ulirat kung ano man ang natatak ng kaugalian ng barkadahan lalo na kung lahat ng iyon ay kapakipakinabang at napakasarap balik balikan. Tama ba ako na kahit ilang beses natin ulit ulitin pagkwentuhan ang mga masasayang pangyayari sa ating pagkakaibigan ay hinding hindi tayo nagsasawa sa mga ito? Paano na lamang kung nabuwag na o nawala na ang lahat ng iyon? Paano mo kaya haharapin ang buhay na wala na sila? Paano ka kaya magkakaroon ng mga panibagong kaibigan kung hindi mo pa din maialis ang mga alaala? Sabi ko nga, mahirap mawalan ng kaibigan, para sa akin mas mahirap pa ito kaysa sa pakikipaghiwalay sa isang kasintahan. Kahit sabihin natin na madaming ibang tao diyan para maipalit sa iyong kaibigan, iba pa din ang mga panahon na kasama mo ang iyong mga kaibigan. At hindi ganun kadaling magsimulang magpakilala at kumilala sa mga panibagong mukha, panibagong ugali na kaibigan.
Kaya para sa aking mga kaibigan na naging parte na ng aking buhay at patuloy na nakakasama ko sa pagtahak ng aking buhay, maraming maraming salamat sa inyo. At para na rin sa mga kaibigan ko na iniwan ako, nagging parte rin kayo ng buhay ko at maraming salamat din sa bahid ng luha at hinanakit na iniwan niyo, ng dahil sa inyo marami akong natutunan at mula sa karanasan na iniwan niyo ay maari ko na iyong ibahagi sa ibang tao.
Sa mundong ating kinatatayuan marami tayong tanong sa ating buhay lalo na pagdating sa ating mga kaibigan.Mga tanong na bumabagabag sa atin. Kung siya ba ay tunay na kaibigan. Kung siya ba ay mapagkakatiwalaan. Kung sasamahan ka ba niya sa iyong pagtawa at pagluha. Kung mahalaga ba sa kanya ang inyong pagkakaibigan. Kung nariyan siya para umintindi sa iyong mga problema. Kung hindi ka niya sisiraan sa mga nangyayari sa paligid mo. Kung bakit siya pa ang kailangan maghila sa iyo pababa. At ang pinakahuli ay kung bakit siya pa ang kailangan magsira sa inyong namuong relasyon.
Sa aking pagtapak sa kolehiyo, marami akong kailangang iayos o kung sa ingles nga ay “adjustments” lalo na pagdating sa pakikipagkaibigan. Pagkatapos ng sekondarya ang mga magkakaibigan ay naghihiwalay para piliin ang pinakamainam na kolehiyong papasukan. Kaya sa buhay ko sa kolehiyo, isa sa mga pinakaimportanteng bagay ay ang paghanap ng bagong mga kaibigan. Mga kaibigan na tutulong sa akin sa hirap man o ginhawa ika nga. Mga kaibigan na sasabay sa iyo sa pagmartsa sa graduation. Mga kaibigan na sasaluhan ka sa iyong mga tagumpay. Mga kaibigan na susuportahan ka sa bawat desisyon na iyong gagawin. Mga kaibigan na hindi ka pagtatawanan ano pa man ang mangyari. Mga kaibigan na hindi nagsasabi ng mga bagay pag ika’y nakatalikod o sa ingles nga ay “backstabbers”. Mga kaibigan na hindi ka kailanman ibabagsak. Marahil sa panahon ngayon mahirap ng makahanap ng mga kaibigan na talagang pinapahalagahan ang inyong relasyon dahil unti- unti ng naglalaho ang mga totoong taon dito sa mundo.
Saan nga ba nagsisimula ang pagkakaibigan? Hindi ba’t sa pagpapakilala kung saan nabubuo na ang magagandang samahan?Mga tawanan na araw-araw laging nakadikit sa atin. Mga birong laging naririnig bawat oras. Mga pagtutulungan mapa quiz man o takdang –aralin at isama mo pa ang exam. Mga kalokohan na tayong magkakaibigan lamang ang nakaka-alam at ating itinatago sa ating mga magulang. Mga sikretong labis nating pinakatatago. Mga kakulitan na kung saan ito’y humahantong sa pagkagalit ng ating magulang, guro at iba pang tao sa paligid, pero sa kabila ng lahat, nariyan pa rin sila para tawanan ka ulit at samahan ano pa man ang mangyari, kaya nga may kasabihan na “all for one, one for all”. Kaya naman ang isang salitang nakadikit sa mga karanasan na iyan ay TIWALA, simpleng salita ngunit makabuluhan naman ang ibig sabihin.
Sa paglipas ng buwan ang ating karanasan sa kolehiyo ay pahirap ng pahirap. Pero sa gitna nglahat, nariyan pa rin ang ating mga kaagapay. Mas lumalalim ang samahan natin at mas nakikilala pa ang bawat isa. Mas tumitibay ang mga samahan sa gitna ng pagpapakahirap sa aming kurso. Hinding hindi ka iiwan sa gitna ng problema at nariyan pa sila para ikaw ay tulungan.Sasamahan ka sa iyong mga pangangailangan dahil palagi silang nariyan para umakay sa iyo. Nariyan din sila para tulungan ka sa mga liksyon na hindi mo naintindihan sa inyong pinakamahirap na asignatura. Pero hindi sa lahat ng bagay ay nariyan sila para tumulong sa iyo, kailangan ka rin nila pag sila naman ang nangangailangan. Hindi sila palaging nasa tabi mo dahil may mga pagkakataon din na kailangan nila kumatok sa iyong pintuan at humingi ng tulong. Kailangan mo suklian kahit sa pinakasimpleng bagay lamang dahil sila ay mahalaga sa iyo at ganoon rin, ikaw ay mahalaga sa kanila.
Pero sa paglalim ng pagsasamahan, nakikita rin natin ang tunay na kulay ng isang tao. Lumalabas ang tunay na mga ugali na naitago sa loob ng ilang buwan at dito na nagsisimula ang pagtatampuhan. Dito ko maihahambing ang katagang “walang sikretong di naibubunyag” dahil ang totoong kulay ng isang tao ay lumilitaw din sa pagdaan ng panahon na sila ay iyong kasama o kapiling. Sa paglipas ng panahon, hindi pa naman natin masasabing “sayang” dahil hindi pa naman ito ang katapusan ng isang namuong pagkakaibigan ng dahil lamang sa isang naibunyag na totoong kulay ng isang tao. Kaya pa rin natin ito tanggapin dahil siya nga iyon at ang tanging magagawa natin ay baguhin kung anu man ang di natin gusto. Wala naman tayong karapatan para pilitin siyang magbago kung ayaw niya talaga dahil iyon na ang kanyang pagkatao.
Pero ano pa nga ba ang magagawa natin kung ayaw niya na talaga magbago dahil hindi naman natin siya kontrolado. Pero ang mahirap sa ganyang karanasan ay kung diyan magsisimula ang pagkawasak ng pagkakaibigan. Hindi naman ito simpleng bagay kung tutuusin dahil isa itong malaking rason para ang iniingat ingatang pagkakaibigan ay masira. Siguro nga hindi natin kayang tanggapin kung sino talaga siya pero kailangan parin natin isipin na dapat hindi ito masira. Kaya kahit sa pinakamaliit na bagay ay maisasalba ito. Ngunit sa maraming pagkakataon kahit anong pilit mong pagsalba, ang kagustuhan ng Diyos ang dapat masunod, mayroon siyang rason kung bakit hindi puwedeng magtagal ang pagkakaibigan dahil mayroon pa siyang mas magandang plano para sa iyo at para sa iyong mga kasama.
Bakit nga ba nagiging dahilan ng pagkakasira ng pagkakaibigan ang isang tagong ugali? Una sa lahat kaya ang isang tao ay kinaaayawan ng kanyang mga kaibigan ay dahil sa hindi nila gusto o kaya ay hindi nila makasundo ang nakasanayang ugali ng isang tao. Mahirap na ibalik ang dating saya ng magkakaibigan lalo na kung sa huli ay balewala lang ang mga nangyari. Ang mga kaibigan na pilit umiintindi sa isa pang kaibigan ay nawawalan rin ng pasensiya dahil sila ang pilit na nag-aayos ng relasyon. Masasabi nating pwedeng maging manhid ang isang tao dahil hindi niya alam kung ano na ang mga hakbang na ginagawa ng kanyang kaibigan para malaman niya o kaya ay makaramdam siya sa mga hindi kanais nais na nangyayari. Marami pang halimbawa ang pwedeng sagot sa tanong na ito, ang isa pa ay ang pagsasabi ng mga masasamang bagay pag ika’y nakatalikod, pag nakaharap ay masayang masaya kayo pero may halong “plastikan”. Tinatawanan ka ng isang tao , ng isang “kaibigan” kahit sa PINAKAsimpleng bagay na mayroon ka, gawin nalang nating halimbawa ang payong. Halimbawa, ano ba ang mayroon sa payong bakit ikaw ay pinagtatawanan nila, marahil, masasabi natin na ang “teen” ay dapat hindi “KJ”, na dapat sumabay ka sa takbo ng mga hindi nagiging kahiya-hiya. E ano ba naman ang kahiya-hiya sa isang payong, kung ayaw mo lang naman umitim o kaya ayaw mo mabasa, dapat ba ikaw ay tawanan ?. Simpleng bagay hindi ba? Pero ginagawang napakalaking isyu. Hindi ka naman naghahanap ng away pero sila ang nagsisimula. Ayaw mo naman sirain ang namuong relasyon pero nariyan sila para gumawa nito. Dito mo na maitatanong kung sila ba ay kaibigan mong tunay?
Kaya sa mga ganitong pangyayari ang maaari mong gawin ay maghanap ulit ng bagong kaibigan. Pero sa maraming kadahilanan, maaaring hindi mo parin ito makakamit dahil nariyan parin ang iyong “dating” kaibigan na pumipigil sa iyo para humanap ng bagong kakaibiganin. Pilit sinisiraan, pilit pinaglalayo, at pilit pinagbabawalan. Ikaw na pilit lumalayo para hindi na lumala ang sitwasyon ay nagiging dahilan pa para ikaw ay lumabas na masama. Sila na nga itong nagsira sa inyong pagkakaibigan, sila pa ang may balak na maghiganti. Sa pag-aaway na ito, magkampihan na ang magkampihan, lumayo na ang dapat lumayo. Masasabi mong sinusubok nito ang tatag ng pagkakaibigan, pero iyon ay depende rin sa sitwasyon. Sa aking halimbawa, iba na ang usapan pag sinabi mong ito’y sinusubok lamang.
Marami pang mga kadahilanan kung bakit nasisira ang pagkakaibigan. Mapasimpleng bagay man ito o napakalaking dahilan, dapat huwag parin tayo mawalan ng pag-asa na maayos ito at huwag agad agad magsasara ng pinto para sa pakikipag-ayos. Hindi naman natin a mahuhusgahan ang isang tao kung siya ba ay tunay at totoong kaibigan o hindi, dahil kailangan muna natin ito kilalanin ng mabuti. Maaaring isang araw nawalan ka ng isang kaibigan pero darating din ang panahon na makakahanap ka din ng tunay na kaibigan. Huwag muna natin husgahan ang darating na bagong kaibigan dahil hindi dapat natin gawing basehan ang mga nagdaang pangyayari. Gaya nga ng sinabi ko, may plano ang Diyos, at nariyan siya palagi para ikaw ay gabayan. At isang araw bigla nalang iyan darating at matatanong mo sa iyong sarili kung siya ba ay isang kaibigang tunay?
Carpe Diem. A common Latin saying which can be traced to a poem which was written by Horace. Two words which may change the course of a person’s life. In our world today, human beings are all living in a rat race. We may all forget to apply carpe diem. Do you?
Living life day by day, surpassing each problem with a smile and each success with another added memory. Growing, changing, moving, and excelling, these are what we want to happen in our lives. We all want to grow- grow in the positive light. While growing up, we are all taught our manners- to say po, opo and making mano to the elders and so many more, along with our values and our being brought up to be a well-rounded person and to be the best that we all can be. Is there anything missing?
The youth, the individuals that are moulding the future. The heads that will soon carry the prestige, the ideas and the name of our country and with some already doing so today. The people that will in the very near future raise our flag up, high and proud. The youth with their developing minds and their interests in many various fields may it be in the field of arts or in the field of science, they are sure to make their mark and make their presence felt. The people with many ideas and publications that are sure to stand out. Are your ideas such?
With the youth moulding the future and moving towards a better future along with their dreams, aspirations, and goals, one must always remember to mix business with pleasure. As two words in Latin that when translated would mean “enjoy, make use, or grasp the day”.
Sitting in your rocking chair and reminiscing the past-all you remember are black and white photographs and monotone music. That is not what should be the case. Everybody is creative and fun, exhilarating and exciting, these would be more than enough to be put in the legacies that our generation would leave. The pages of you life should be well written, this should be splashed with every color of paint imaginable and with every musical instrument played. There is no better moment than today!
Stand. Imagine. Breath life for every moment is precious.
Stand. Shout. Make a name for yourself!
Stand. Smile. Continue writing the book of you life.
It begins with nothing. You’ll never know when will it come and go. Unfortunately, you can’t predict what is yet to happen. You only want the truth but you cannot have it. I too had been a part of those mysterious days, and, until now, still can’t I find answers.
How would I know if he feels the same when all he does is stare at me? The moment I laid eyes on him was not the very moment I felt it. I knew that I was going to fall, and I tried to prevent it, but I failed. I admit that he is not an eye-catcher. And I hate what he does. I judged him based on what he was trying to show and I felt guilty about it. Yes, he is good. And his mind, I think, is close to being perfect. I never reached his level of intelligence and every time I talked to him, I felt small—smaller than what you could ever imagine. We don’t talk too much and we often argue about the most stupid things in our daily school life. It feels crazy seeing him whenever I walk inside the room. And his personality, specially being a show-off, irritates me a lot. He even calls me stupid, and I just let him—because at times I really am stupid. A day without an argument with him seemed not to be enough.
I never wanted to ask him any sort of question, because I do not want any answer from him. Until the day I felt something strange. I felt like I wanted to ask him millions of questions, but this time, I was afraid of what the answer could be. I didn’t know how it all started. I just woke up and felt like going to school at the earliest possible time. I saw him arrive and I just ignored. He walks towards me and asks stupid school questions. I answer, and then he leaves. That was the everyday scenario. Days went by and I noticed that I was getting close to him. I tried to avoid him but he keeps on bugging me—like he was missing having arguments with me. The moment I decided to avoid him was the very moment I decided not to. By then, I was confused where to stand. He always tries to pretend and act natural around me. But I knew what he was trying to hide—I hope. I would often ask my friends how they got along easily with him. I got curious on who he really is and how he makes other people like him. But when I reached that point, I wasn’t sure if really wanted to pursue it. Days would start and end fast that I didn’t even notice that those loud and unstoppable arguments turned out to be the sweetest and most remarkable moments of all. It was like a dream—the most meaningful and beautiful dream I ever had. If only I could stop this precious time whenever I talk to him, then I would. I often catch his eyes looking at me; obviously, I was looking at him too. He brightens up my day with a simple smile. And I wonder if that smile is for happiness or hidden emotions, too. I seek for answers in his daily acts. I got some, but I was not sure which of them are true. I even became his savior whenever he fails to do his homework. Well, with his level of intelligence, he also served as my tutor in times of confusion. We had a give and take process. We even bet on who gets the higher score. That way, he became an inspiration. We had chances of talking but it was plain and pure school work. I wouldn’t even bother ask him a personal question because I was afraid that he would take things a little too fast and conclude easily. Every day was a new day and a new challenge for me. I didn’t even know how to face him. I breathe too fast—faster than every pump of blood in my heart—whenever I talk to him. He shows a little sign of interest for he talks to me whenever I wouldn’t. The reaction on his face was somewhat strange whenever other people tease him on me. I don’t know if he is numb or if he struggles just to pretend to be one. He questions the way I dress and I can’t figure out what his purpose was. I get conscious and shy whenever he does that. I try my very best to hide the feeling but I just can’t explain why this smile is automatically placed on my face whenever he plays jokes on me. I got even closer to him and that’s the time when I saw his other side. It was his nature being a show-off, and I accepted that in the shortest time. We talked about everything and anything under the sun without being aware on what is happening around us. It was so ironic. Every moment was the happiest, yet, the loneliest. My feelings were in danger and I can’t prevent my heart from falling—deeper. The feeling was a daze and I couldn’t catch up. I often catch myself lost in illusions. What if he would confess? What if he knew about my feelings? What if he cared? Or maybe, What if he loves me too? Question would always remain as questions and I badly need downright answers.
I avoided him for I thought it was for the best. It confused me even more when he avoids me back. Was it a sign that he was afraid to admit that he was falling too, or just because he was irritated on me being around him? I never asked him these questions, because I never had the courage and I was afraid of being rejected. Besides, I am a lady and I can’t violate norms. Yes, it might be stupid but that’s the only thing I could do. And I guess that that is the saddest part of being a girl. I couldn’t even express myself, because every time I am around him, I just feel like dying in my most alive consciousness. I was far from being perfect and I was afraid not to meet his expectations. It made me feel small and weak. It cuts me deeply whenever I hide what I feel and prevent myself from saying words I always wanted to say. This time, I look away when he looks at me, and he would do the same every time I would. We ignored each other’s presence and I didn’t know what to feel and how to react about it. It was hard—harder than what I thought. Seeing him and being with him in the same room for the whole day made things more complicated. The world was too small for us to grow. It became harder and harder everyday and every time I look at him. It was like oblivion, and it made me feel so alone. The hardest decision I made turned out to be the biggest mistake I ever did. I regret avoiding him and I could not stand a day without him. I look for him when he is not around. But the saddest part is he got used to living independently. Like my absence was something he wouldn’t notice. And if I had the power to turn back time, I wouldn’t bring it back to the moment I met him, but rather, I would choose the time when I had to let him go. Because that time was the moment I let him take a part of me. I impart a small piece of myself to constantly remind him that I was once present in his life.
I tried putting things back to where they used to be. And it was not as easy as it seems. It was harder than avoiding him. I would even act stupid around other people just to catch his attention. He plays hard to get. And as always, he hides what he feels. Even his smiles were hiding just to pretend that he did not hear the jokes I cracked. Eventually, I got his attention again. And just like the old times, we tried to pretend that nothing has changed. He remained to be a show-off and my only choice was to accept his flaws again. We were happy but still the questions remained unanswered. I think I just have to go with the flow and seek for answers little by little, hoping that it would not be too late when I found them out. Our so called friendship was the most mysterious friendship I ever knew. It was not honest in any sort. It was full of pretentions. We remain friends until this very moment and I still seek for answers. I just need to work things out and think about it more critically. Our story is yet to unfold and I am still hoping for the best. All I want is his honesty. I may be hurt in what he would say, but at least I knew how he feels. By then, I would know how to make him stay or let him go.
I just can’t keep myself from asking questions. I just wonder why people had to leave. Why do they have to arrive if they wouldn’t stay at all? Maybe, they would teach us and make us discover unrevealed and beautiful sides of life. I just have to be honest and the best results are fast approaching. Maybe, I meet new people for valid reasons and each of them plays a special role in my life. Maybe, they all have their purposes and I am the only one responsible in knowing what those purposes are.
Then maybe it was kismet. It was destiny when I met him, and falling for him was my choice. I blame myself for feeling this kind of feeling. I never intended to. And maybe, it remains as a choice—living my everyday life this way. And maybe, just maybe, kismet would keep us together.
Ibig bang sabihin kung wala ka ng pera, huwag ka ng mag-ambisyong makapag-aral, ayon sa kasabihanng CHED na “Quality Education is Expensive.” Sa totoo lang maraming nilalang ang makasarilli. Kahit na gayon ang kalikasan ng ating mundo, ang mga tao, salungat sa natira sa kalikasan, ay hindi pinagkalooban ng panloob na pag-uugaling programa, at sa gayon tayo ang nangangailangan nito. Mapalad ang mga nilalang na nabibigyan ng pagkakataong makatung-tong sa paaralan upang ranasin kung ano ang edukasyon. Pero ano nga ba itong tinatawag na edukasyon? Ito ba ang pagpasok sa paaralan kahit wala kang natutunan? Ito ba ang pagbabayad ng walang hanggang pagtaas ng matrikula. Ito ba ang kopyahan sa loob ng silid aralan o ano? May naitutulong ba ito sa ating kapaligiran at may malaking papel kaya ito sa paghubog ng ating lipunan?
Ang edukasyon ang tanging kayamanan na natutuhan at makakamit ng isang tao na hinding-hindi mananakaw ng sino man. Ito ay kinabibilangan ng pagtuturo at pag-aaral ng isang kasanayan., ang pagbabahagi ng kaalaman, mabuting pag-husga at karunungan. Pero paano makakamit ng ating bansa ang magandang edukasyon kung hindi naman maayos ang sistema nito. Malaking ibendinsya na lamang ng mga ito ay maraming paaralan sa bansa ang kulang-kulang sa gamit, nagkukulang sa mga upuan at mga mesa, may mga paaralan na kulang-kulang din sa mga guro at ang iba estudyante na lang nagtuturo bilang pamalit sa mga kulang na guro. Ang uliran na panumbasan ng guro sa mag-aaral ay 1:25 ngunit sa mataas na paaralan ng kalayaan sa Pilipinas ay 1:100 o higit pa ang tinituruan. Ang edukasyon ang pangunahing problema ng sangkatauhan pero ito naman ang tunay na sulosyon sa pagkalugmok natin sa sa kahirapan. Kung bibigyan lang natin ng wastong tuon ang edukasyon at patuturo ang kahit isang henerasyon, matiyak na ang darating na henerasyon ay mapalaking maayos at mamuhay sa sukdulan. Ito ay dahil sa bawa’tpansing ating binibigay sa wastong edukasyon ay maari at magkaroon ng sapat na paunlarin ang susunod na henerasyon
Tunay lamang na bigyan ng sapat na atensyon ng bawat kabataan ang wastong edukasyon. Dapat pansinin ng bawat Pilipino kung anu-ano ang mga nangyayari sa ating kapaligiran lalong-lalo na ang mga magulang. Huwag tayong magbulag-bulagan samga nangyayari sa atin bago mahuli ang lahat. Malaki ang parte ng mga magulang sa anak dahil dapat nilang pagtuunan ng pansin ang kanilang mga anak, dapat palakihin nila ang mga ito sa maayos na paraan at bigyannila ang kanilang mga anak ng karapatang magkaroon ng edukasyon. Sila ang pangunahing guro nila sa pagturo ng kagandahang asal, magandang pag-iisip, kung paano nila mahalin ang kapwa nila tao at ang sarili nilang bansa at dapat din nilang ilapit ang kanilang anak sa puong-maykapal. Ang magulang ang siyang may obligasyon na palakihin ang kanilang mga anak sa maayos dahil alamnamn nila na malaki ang maitutulong ng mga kabataan sa paglutas ng mga suliranin sa ating sariling bansa. Dahil kung makakapag-aral ang mga kabataan ay malaki ang maibabahagi nila sa pag-unlad ng ating bansa. Sila ang mga mabisang sandata upang palayain ang sambayanan mula sa pagkakaalipin nito sa larangan ng kultura, ekonomiya at politika. Ang edukasyon ay tutugon sa interes ngating sambayanan hindi sa interes ng dayuhang kapital. Ang edukasyon ay maari ding sandata para hubugin ang ating mamamayan sa maling pananaw. Kaya tayong mga kabataang Pilipino bigyan nating halaga at sapat na pansin ang edukasyon sapagkat ito ang susi sa pag-unlad ng bansa nating Pilipinas. Ito ang panunahing lunas upang makamit natin ang kalayaan na matagal na nating inaabot. Tunay na mahalaga ang parte ng mga kabataan at sila ang matatawag na pag-asa ng bayan. Sigaw nga ng karamihan kabataan ang pag-asa ng bayan! At para tapusin itong sanaysay na ito nais ko lang ibahagi ang wikang “Ang tunay na aklat ng isang mag-aaral ay ang lipunang kanyang ginagalawan, ang guro niya ay ang sambayanan, at ang kanyang pagsusulit ay ang pakikilahok niya sa pakikibaka ng masang-api.
As I take the brush and paint, I couldn’t think of anything but to engrave on a canvas those things revolving around our little worlds. We can never refute that our country has its great decline when everyone had his own way of moneymaking and threw these off towards the fire that caused a lot of lives to plunge.
Almost each day, shrill cries echo in every corner of our country…cries seeking for justice and freedom. Freedom---are we, Filipinos, indeed free? Or are we simply tucked up in a dungeon suffocated by crimes and captivity?
At some point, development of illicit trade arose. Now, have you ever heard about the illegal drug trade? Of preys of prostitution, pornography, sexual maltreatment, forced labor and reflex servitude? This eleven-letter word that kills young minds and souls…TRAFFICKING.
We can never deny that wheeling and dealing, whether human or drug, has been a big-time craze for those people who hunger for a bundle of money and power. It has been a drug-addiction, or simply, a passion for those who can’t get off without any box of treasure in their hands. Nowadays, drug trades are common anywhere in the country. Look at your left. Then, to your right. Everyone seems to overlook that what they do is illegitimate, what they just see are the treasures it might bring. Drug trafficking is indeed a fast-way-giving-money; so why spend your time for a useless job when in fact you can do this and that---well, you might really get a million prize but a billion impurities in your heart. On the other side of the painting, we see young women saying “We need to do this for our family…” Do you need to be a prostitute and dish up as a slave of illegal trade of your carcass to other people? You seem to remove your dignity and sinking yourself in mud!
Well, some could really just be victims of shameful and useless people who don’t know how to care. It’s a pity that human trafficking slaughters dreams of children…it’s a pity that the society’s backbone loses its hope and dignity. And it is indeed a pity that a big part of this canvas is painted black---hopelessness for the motherland.
Let us open our eyes! Let us not remain voiceless and very deaf! Let us not waste our lives swimming in wealth, instead, let us go hand in hand in promoting ‘anti-trafficking’ with our dignities raised up. Let us treasure His gifts---the motherland, the natural re4sources, and most, the people. Like a drug, too much money can thrust you into water and smolder your identity! Speak out…show off the world with optimistic ideas…be aware of the things around you…
Keep in mind that even the future doesn’t promise a more pessimistic evolution in our country. It is in our hands to bring back the bright colors of today’s painting. It is in our hands to erase all the dullness in her and bring back her sovereignty. It is in our hands to paint off the tears tainted on the canvas and totally give light to the darkening land. What we actually need is accord and teamwork of thoughts to avert and heal our dying land.
Let us realize that we can do something---with our paints…and our brushes…
There are vast differences in the way people view the death penalty. Some oppose it and some agree with it. There have been many studies trying to prove or disprove a point regarding the death penalty. Some have regarded the death penalty as a deterrent, and some have regarded it as state sanctioned murder and not civilized. The death penalty has been attributed to societies for hundreds of years. More recently, as we become more civilized, the death penalty has been questioned to be the right step towards justice. The death penalty is a highly controversial subject. No one knows who’s right or who’s wrong-it’s fifty percent speculation and fifty percent research. It’s just a lot of thoughts and beliefs from people who have contributed to the death penalty hype. Who’s right and who’s wrong? That is the question.
First I need to highlight briefly into to the history of the death penalty to fully understand why people feel the way they do about the death penalty. Almost all nations in the world have had the death sentence and had enforced it in many ways. It was used in most cases to punish those who broke the laws or standards that were expected of them. Some of the historical methods of execution were restricted only by one’s imagination they include flaying or burying alive, boiling in oil, crushing beneath the wheels of vehicles or the feet of elephants, throwing to wild beasts, forcing combat in the arena, blowing from the mouth of a cannon, impaling, piercing with javelins, starving to death, poisoning, strangling, suffocating, drowning, shooting, beheading, and more recently, electrocuting, using the gas chamber, and giving lethal injection.
The people who oppose the death penalty have very different reasons than people who agree with it. Those who oppose it feel that no matter how bad of an offense that the criminal has committed, they should not be executed. One argument is that the convicted could be innocent. Once the state kills an innocent person, the effects are irreversible. There have been at least 96 instances since 1973 of wrongfully convicted people set free before the states had a chance to kill them. If there are 96 cases, caught before they could be sentenced to death, then think about all of the cases that haven’t been caught. DNA evidence has come a long way to help these innocent people to their freedom. The following person is an example of one of those people wrongfully condemned by lack of evidence.
There are those that are pro-death penalty advocates. They believe that the death penalty serves as a deterrent. They believe others will see that the offender is getting executed for their heinous crime, and this will deter them from ever committing such an act. They feel that not only is the person who is executed unable to commit another murder, but other potential killers may also be dissuaded from killing. Not those who act on emotion or the heat of the moment. One could argue that there are far more rational civilized people in this country than there are emotionally disturbed people. The death penalty works because it instills psychological resistance to the act of murder, not because it offers a rational argument against committing the act at the time that the decision to murder is made. So every day citizens have instilled into their heads that it is bad to murder someone. But murders still occur on occasions when people are in an irrational state of mind. Even though a person may be rational one day they could become irrational on another day. The irrational people are mainly at the hands of alcohol and drugs, but there are occasions where unusual circumstances exist. For example, a husband catching his wife in the act of adultery could drive him mentally into a rage and into a very irrational state of mind, which could ultimately lead to murder. But there are also those people who are just straight up mentally disturbed that kill for no reason at all.
Another reason pro-death penalty advocates give for their belief is that it serves as retribution, or an eye for an eye. These are the two main types of retribution: revenge, in which the victim gets satisfaction, and “just deserts”, which the offender should have an obligation to repay society . An eye for an eye relies on what people deserve for their crime, which determines what kind of punishment they will receive. Or in other words we should treat people the way they have treated others. If someone murders someone, then they should be murdered. This type of punishment would not have any prejudice, because they would receive whatever they dished out. It tells us that the punishment is to be identical to the crime. Which in a way is a repayment towards the victim’s family, or “just deserts”. This view of the death penalty wouldn’t rely on a jury to decide what should be done to the offender. Let’s say the offender was black and raped a white woman, and the jury sentenced them to life in prison. People could say in the same circumstances a white man would only get ten years. But using an eye for an eye, both men would be raped in return. No discrimination. And the same goes for the death penalty, there wouldn’t be no prejudice, it would just simply be “you kill, you die—end of story”, enough said.
Nobody can really prove that any of these views are right or wrong. In my opinion, God should have the final say on life. But on the other hand the offender didn’t let God give the victim a die. So who knows what to do? As a society we should determine the fate we have dealt ourselves. We have developed these offender’s, we should therefore deal with them as a society. It is true that the varieties of ways in which men have put one another to death is horrific. It is society that should determine if we (as a society) want to be murderers. These offenders, murderers, and killers are a mirror image of our own reflection in society. Two wrongs don’t make a right! You choose! Civilization or Brutalism?
What is suffering? Do you know the meaning of suffering and its different form and how to cope up with it? In this topic, we will study the different form and how to cope up suffering.
Suffering is the state or experience of one person that suffers. We may face suffering in a different form. Suffering may encounter in physical, mental or in spiritual form. In physical form of suffering, for example is pain, it is the most common form of suffering, because it is the most common form of suffering, it is also the most easiest form that we can encounter. The fact that we have known some pain makes it possible for us to feel compassion for those who are suffering. In this sense, pain contribute to human solidarity. It delivers us from narrow concern and make us feel oneness with other humans. And mental and spiritual suffering, it is associated with other frustration, deprivation, failure, and losing our faith. In this sense it involve the unhappy conscious, it is happen when a person realize her/her infinitudes. To know and accept infinitude is perhaps the most important step towards personhood and only the suffering of failures, frustration can bring to us proper self-understanding. Guilt, a kind of inward pain or discomfort and a warning that something is going wrong at the leve of human personal being. And we suffer vicariously- it is the most acute suffering at all, we could endure suffering affecting us but not that which affects others/love ones which can not do anything about it. Suffering promotes compassion and concern.
the easiest way of coping our suffering is to pray and let God hold everything and will take care of it. Their is a verse in a BIBLE that says " come to me all of you whoa are tired, and i will give you rest. And do not see the problem as a suffering, because problem helps us to be come strong.
Life is not exciting but people love to live life to the fullest even though they only get dozens of never ending problems. People like living under the sun covered by the clear blue sky but do they see beyond what hides them? Beyond the sky; a life far from they have at the moment will be spoon fed to them. It is an outrageous thought but there’s the possibility that it can be true. People will not be living under a ruling worst than slavery. Everyone will be at peace with anyone. The nation will not have any problems at all. But possibilities can turn impossible if people don’t think properly and act well. They will be puppets; toys of the abusive politicians tied to wires instead of strings that are pierced deep into their skin. Their bodies will be suddenly left by their souls and will be sitting dummies in wait for the orders of someone superior than they are.
Life is simply impossible to predict but people are not clairvoyants to do so. Maybe it is better for them to go where life drifts them to. Life is just an abyss of the unknown that can lead someone anywhere either towards richness or towards poverty or worst. They are only followers of their own will, slaves of their own being; robots in the flesh. They are living puppets with their puppeteers holding their souls with intertwined velvet strings.
As new waves of symphonic activities run its course, each and everyone follows its unending tracks towards something that will mold the new core of their life’s impediment. A metamorphosis of souls longing to be a vision of others; an artwork of an indie artist incomparable to those which are already known to all that exists.
Everyone is just a random persona amongst the crowd that expects a load of unspecific racial norms to be pursued just to say I’m one of them. Society is simply the new battle field that one or two people need to survive in order to be within the crowd. Every single person is included in an army; the group they belong to which fights for the power, to be on top of the society. Be the strongest among the personalities that flood the sinister realm of the unknowing and to seize the supremacy. Be the conqueror of everyone, the symbol for a new ruler of the empire which everyone fell in love with at first sight. It is simply a lame battle that anyone puts interests to. A despicable excuse just to be part of something new and be within the barriers put up by sovereignty.
“I’m one with the society but I’m not a spawn that thrives within the womb of the new Gaea. Her evolution infects a nauseous soul within its reach. I’m not one of them. I stand with my feet firm on the ground never letting my soul be seduced by the image of something new. I thirst for what it can give but I’m not foolish enough to be one of them. I’m not a stereotype of the society. I’m a noble outcast; a prodigy that will incarnate the former premise that every one of us should live by.” A person of the crowd should say and propagate aloud.
We are growing in a world that is full of mystery in our life. This could appear as a challenge to us or a lesson in everything we do. I would like to share this essay to young people like me. I once dreamed to be a ballerina, so I could express my feelings to the world. Because I believe that every step I do when I dance, is the way I could tell my fellow people how our world is facing the problems we give her every time. But I cannot be a ballerina because I’m just an ordinary citizen of the Philippines that has May dreams in life. One of my dreams is to help improve our earth’s status. It’s because we had already forgot the gifts and blessing that had gave us. Isn’t it better to live in a clean and wonderful place again? I would like to share my ideas to others to help change this problem, cause I don’t want to end up in a deadly world that are full of pain , sadness, worries and poverty. So let’s stop the pollution that we have, in order to stop it we should think of ideas that would lessen it. I would like researchers to study this problem, so they could come up with good ideas to prevent problems like this. I would like the government to put up programs that could give knowledge to people, so they could understand the idea what is really happening to our world. I would like the rich people to race funds to help the projects that are been purpose. We should not reject the ideas of everybody, cause one day this could help our problems to be lessened. And we should not be afraid to discover new things in our minds, because I believe that we can be the next people who will improve the problem of our world and we could be also one of the great peoples that had been an inspiration to the youth of the future. We must not give up every time we fall, we must stand up and say “If others can, I can do it”. We may be rich or poor; we still have great ideas that must be heard. I also would like to tell the people to listen to the projects that are being shared, because it is for your own good. And last I would like young researchers to be more inspired to there works and don’t give up in everything, there will always be an answer. Let’s give another chance to change the mistakes we have done. I know that mother earth is waiting for us, so don’t keep her waiting for a long time. We once also dream of our future, and may that future be the place we want to have.
This is mother earth if we keep killing her. So stop the bad interest you keep doing to hurt her. We must love her as we love our parents, children, husband, wife, friends, sisters, brothers, some one special, and God. The earth is our home, so we should protect it. So think and think again .Thank you for reading this short essay.
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